Korea – Day 9 – Flying Home with My Questions and Yours
Questions, questions, questions.
Remember when you first realized the ground-breaking truth that the “more you learn the more you realize you don’t know“? I’ve got that times 1,000,000,000 or so…
Read more about the Q’s after the jump.
An extremely large door has been opened (and closed) only to showcase many more doors still left to open. Meeting my birth mother was that big door, but I’m left more in want than I was before. Questions ranging the full gamut like “What’s your favorite icecream?” to “Who’s our birth father and where is he?” still are left unanswered.
There’s just not enough time.
***insert potentially bad word here voiced out of frustration***
Ah. ok. done.
So as you read this I’m 40,000 miles above the earth flying back to the US of A. I’ve already given “umma” the longest hug known to mankind, kisses all over her big round face (that’s where I got it…) and my eyes are burning with hot tears.
It’s been an amazing, life-altering 9 days here in Seoul, South Korea. It’s been almost too traumatic, too psychologically challenging, too stressful both physically, mentally, and spiritually… but it’s been so worth it.
Thank you so much for all of you who have been praying without ceasing and many of you that have chosen to support someone that you’ve never physically met. Let me tell you that you have undoubtedly been used by the Lord to bless me, my brother, my birth mother, and our now much bigger family in ways that are both unimaginable and incalculable.
Thank YOU.
I can never really repay any of you, but I’d love to give as much as I can back to the community… and I hope that the coverage on this blog has both blessed, challenged, and excited you about how the Lord loves reconciliation and relationships. I’ve deeply enjoyed all your comments, thoughts, encouragements, and questions… and it’s the most latter that I’d like to engage you guys again.
Please feel free to post any and all questions you have about the trip, about adoption, about my experiences, etc… below in the commenting box.
I promise you that I’ll answer every single one to the very best of my ability. Please note that if it’s too sensitive a question I will not answer it… but I will note it and come back to it later if and when I’m comfortable. If you’d like to ask a personal and private question instead of a public one, you can send me an email to johnsaddington@gmail.com.
Finally, please also note that there’s always the possibility that I may be answering your question via a blog post as I continue to write about the trip and use my blog as a shamlessly effective vehicle for personal cartharsis…
teehee…!
Love you guys. You guys rock. I praise the Lord for you all.
Dude! I am glad everything went better than any of us could have expected. I understand the feeling o reconciling relationships. Maybe not to this extent, but I have experience it with my father who left my life at the age of 4. But dude! I have been so happy for you over there, you have touched lives here, and it's only fit that you would reap what you sow. God Bless.
you've been happy all the way thru… love it.
You have no idea how many adoptive parents have been following your journey. I'm sure they have so many questions…but realize how sensitive they can be. Unfortunately, many adoptive parents(like me) rate their parenting skills on how their adoptive children view adoption. If our children seem happy and well adjusted, we feel like we have done a decent job. On the other hand, if our child is struggling, we want to know what we could have, should have done different. I realize sometimes it can't be that black and white.
I pray as you process all you have taken in this last week, the Holy Spirit leads you to answers and peace. Your testimony has been a true blessing to our family.
On the lighter side, was one of your birthmothers first questions how well you did in school?
haha. she did mention it… but the first question she asked was about why i was married and how i looked so young to be a dad. … typical!
I posted on an earlier thread, but I was wondering how your adoptive family is processing this journey as well? I'm a proud mom of 2 kids (boy and girl) adopted from South Korea. I'd like to know any insights from your perspective, from their perspective ( if we can,and if it's too sensitive I understand), so that we can support our kids as they might go on this journey too someday.
God bless you and I'm very happy that you were able to realize your dream and have many questions answered too.
I know this is your blogging site but how's big Pete taking all of this? With you guys being twins, it's probably a lot of the same feelings. Thanks for sharing what you have, have a safe trip home and man, God is good
pete's doing ok. it's been a pretty different experience for him since he's been looking for nearly a decade.
No question as I would like to see it unfold in your mind as you reflect, via this blog. Just know this family and a bunch of us at church this morning, and in weeks past, were praying for you during your journey. Welcome home!
thanks t, i'm glad to be back.
I'm so pumped everything went well. It was my pleasure to support you *albeit very small*, someone I have not met personally. God shines through your life and I value you that over all else.
thanks michael!
1. Are you going to stay in contact with your mom and her family?
2. How does this impact your relationship with your "other" mom (and dad)?
Thanks again for letting us in!
1. Yes. snail mail is still good.
2. makes it stronger. they have been super supportive all the way through… couldn't have done it without them.
welcome home!!!
praying for rest and peace as you reflect on all that has happened the last week+…
thank you for sharing your story…
and i can't wait to hear more when you're ready to share…
i bet roenne is SO happy to see her appa… ^^
you rock! roenne's happy.
Welcome back man! (almost)
As always thanks for being so honest and open about all that you experienced with (sometimes) complete strangers/bloggers
My only question is, what were the words that you each last spoke to each other?
i love you.
talked with petey . WHAT A WEEK.
in the end… praise God, always. it was good to see you today, though it was brief. welcome back!!
thanks chaeddy!
Good luck on your journey. I hope that you are able to find at least some of the answers that you are looking for.
thanks askkate! i'm working through them.
I have not commented much over the past while. But have been following you all the way. My wife thought it was totally ridiculous that you watched 'TV games' as part of spending quality time, but then she just does not get the geek world that some of us live in
Some of your posts were very emotional, even for me (I have never physically met you, and my closest adoption experience are my wonderful niece and nephews) I especially loved the family pic's. The obvious joy in everyone's faces was amazing to see.
Thanks for sharing it all with us. I will never come close to this type of experience but I have learned a lot through the view into your world.
God bless.
haha. tv games. epic.
glad you could join me in this ron, the support has been definitely felt.