Year of the Wife – For Men Only – Women Have Computer Brains
Please oh please… someone of the female persuasion… tell me this is TRUE!
Chapter 3 of the For Men Only book says that many women consider their “thought lives” like “busy computers”…
Is this true? Because if it is, then this may be the greatest source of information that I could have possibly learned about my wife (and women in general).
Why? Because this speaks to me in my language. Quote:
Their thought lives are almost like busy computers with multiple windows open and running all at once… … This female multitasking of thoughts and feelings impacts how your wife or girlfriend relates to you every single day…!
Really? I mean, REALLY?!? The book goes on to postulate from their surveys:
- Most women juggle multiple thoughts and feelings at the same time.
- About half of all women have stored thoughts or feelings from the past that regularly pop up into active mode whether they want them to or not.
- Women seem consistently unable to close these windows as easily as men can.
There’s even more goodness as the chapter progresses, but this chapter #3 is illuminating because I think in terms of computers and computer programs all the time. To think that my wife has difficulty “shutting and closing down” the applications running on her desktop (mind) is easy to understand.
In fact, I sympathize. In fact, I empathize. In fact, I understand that frustration. That sucks. Attempting the battle for a clean desktop is something I do daily in my tech life, but not something I do in my wife’s thought life.
*SMACK*
This chapter seriously rocks.
I am currently reading Every Man's Battle, but this book is definately going to be one of my next 3 I read.
rock on! that was a good read… i remember it.
It is true. Adamantly true. The best thing you can do is ASK HER what those windows contain, and then ONLY fix the ones that are ACTUALLY IN YOUR CONTROL
thanks for chiming in! love it.
I could have told you that.
The book calls it multi-tasking. I call it overclocking. Or maybe that's just my fiance…
you are a giant among men…
Passing this post on to the wife. Let's see what she says. I will let you know.
cool. please do!
Okay, that is the last time I pass on any of your articles to Chele. This can be dangerous to my health.
hehe. is that what you call her? chele… interesting.
Yep. I tried Dave, but it just did not make sense and she was always confused… so we just shortened Michele down a bit.
sexy.
ooh great analogy! i would agree… we're constantly juggling multiple windows, and even though some are "minimized" temporarily, they're still there. and yes, sometimes they just pop up when we don't want them to, so we need help dealing with the content in order to close and get rid of it for good.
cool! even you? AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
kind of along the same vein, i thought you might enjoy this drawing: http://eatsleepdraw.com/post/66930727/this-is-how...
If this is the case, does that mean my son is Linux based? They do say it takes a village (a.k.a. open source community) to raise a child. Hmmm…
perhaps… that's kinda cool.
Totally true. Might I also add that once a window has been dealt with and closed, there's no guarantee it will stay closed permanently. It's like we have this crazy virus that opens up windows without our consent.
wow. consensus all around…! crazy virus!
John, my wife concurs…this is TRUE!
whoa. @h_smith wins!
Does this mean women are Windows based, and men are Apple?
BEST.COMMENT.EVER.
lol….I totally agree!
hehe.
… rock on.. hahahahaha. love it.
That is a great way to explain my brain that I never would've come up with. I completely agree with the comment that we have a virus that involuntarily opens windows that we thought were long closed…and even deleted.
DOH! deleted is a good thing… no?
Deleted is a good thing if the files are truly deleted…not hidden away on the hard drive to be opened unexpectedly at the most inopportune time.
so… is there a tried and true way of "deleting" them? or just over time?
Alright, After this post…I'm picking up the book. Barnes and Noble, here i come.
puahahahaha. i'm glad i can help out…!
Wow great thoughts! I compared my computer desktop (which is always the cleanest thing on my computer, I can't work without a clear background) with my wife's (which is the opposite of mine) too true! Thanks for that little gem, my mind is already churning…
dude. that is SOOOOO true! my wife's desktop is insanity. mine, on the other hand, is clean. nothing.
I completely agree with the book! At times it is a blessing because we can accomplish twice as many tasks in a day than our male counterparts. However, on the down side, we are never in 'sleep mode', so we are therefore always tired and feel the pressure of the 'To Do List'. Maybe now Leo can understand when I appear to be listening to him but can't recall afterward what he said.
Listening? Hmm, I think Chele just said something, but I cannot quite figure it out. Maybe I will recall later.
I definitely have to get this book. I think this is the first time she has actually said "I completely agree with the book". I have some catching up to do if I am going to be a better husband like H3.
puahahaha. dude. i'm almost addicted to this book… we'll have to do a study together… let's do it!
That sounds great! Let me dig into the book and we should talk more about a study after that. I can always use some help learning how to better take care of the wife.
kool. i think we should have a blog book club.
Sweet. We should test it out. Game on.
ok. i'm down. after i finish this post… let's think of a good book… i wanted to do this for churchcrunch.com as well… different community base though.
Rules, rules. How often do we post about the book or its chapters? What types of books (subject matter for our personal blogs vs. those for the churchcrunch crowd)? Anything else?
for churchcrunch, i'd like to go through something culturally familiar, like tribes (which is hot).
i'll post some guidelines… soon. as long as you're down…!
Oh, yeah. I am down. I think it would be fun. I will keep an eye out for the guidelines.
Tribes sounds good. I would not mind reading it again… incredible book!
Yes, this is very true. It is rare to have only one window open at a time. One of my best guy friends is reading this book too, so he is constantly texting me: "Is this true?" Haha! This was the chapter that clicked for him too. He's a huge computer guy. I'm sending him a link to this post; he will enjoy it just as much as I have.
Awesome… i have yet to see a woman not agree with this… this is freaking amazing truth…!